I wonder why young people seem to be incapable of having committed relationships now? My “nieces” both have had multiple relationships culminating in children born out of wedlock. They see absolutely nothing wrong socially or morally with it. And I wonder when such a huge change in societal norms changed so dramatically.
When I was growing up, wayyyy back in the age of dinosaurs it seems (the 1950’s and 60’s) out of wedlock children were frowned upon, whispered about; their parents ostracized for such behavior. Now, it seems to be a point of pride for young women to be a “baby-momma”.
My neighbor, a lovely 13 year old was telling me about a youngster in her school, aged 11, that just gave birth to a child. I was appalled. My neighbor said, “oh, she thought if she had a baby there would always be someone to love her, and she slept with every boy in the class”. Then I was feeling pain for the child who felt that way. How awful it must be to feel so unloved that one purposefully became pregnant at age 11.
I wondered whatever made this little girl and my nieces think that having multiple relationships was the appropriate thing to do? When had having children been the way to find love?
Both nieces had their first child before they were 16. Their mother never said a single word about their promiscuity and welcomed the arrival of “the babies”…which only encouraged the girls to keep up the behavior. They have never committed themselves to a real relationship and have no intentions of doing so. Oh, one got married..she even wore a lovely white gown…and promptly started sleeping around. Is this a Universal behavior now, I wonder? Or just an American thing?