Judgment calls

All of us judge the things we see…the things we read…the people we meet.  It is a human characteristic.  No matter how hard we try not to judge, we all do it.

We read a post and decide to laugh, or cry..to condemn or approve.  We don’t stop and think about it, it simply happens.

Every experience leads us in one direction or another…were we brought up in a religious household? If so, we might choose to believe one thing over another when coming up against a situation or statement.  We can not know what a reader or observer will think or how they will react.  We hope not to be judged while we ourselves are judging.

We read condemnation where there may be none intended..simply because of our experiences and mindset.

Is it wrong that we do so?  I don’t think it is either right or wrong…it just is. We are Human.  We are not infallible. We make judgments. We make mistakes.

I wrote a post about young uncommitted mothers.  It brought forth a LOT of remarks, some were offended, some agreed. Perhaps I missed my point in writing it..perhaps the readers missed it. I don’t know.

Commitment does not equal marriage.  I have no problem with UNWED mothers…I was one.

I have a problem with UNCOMMITTED mothers or fathers.   They are uncommitted to their own children…or they are so young as to be children themselves.  In the case of my nieces, they are uncommitted not only to the fathers of their children. but the children themselves.  These young women frankly are no better than feral cats dropping their young in an alley.  Actually, the cats are better mothers.  Now, animal rights people will be.

In the case of my nieces, they are uncommitted to not only the fathers of their children. but the children themselves.  These young women frankly are no better than feral cats dropping their young in an alley.  Actually, the cats are better mothers.  Now, animal rights people will be on my case..and that is their right.

I wrote about an 11 year old getting pregnant.  Obviously, the poor child is in a relationship where her parents are uncommitted to her if she thinks having a child will give her unconditional and everlasting love.

I do not understand situations like these and in my personal opinion, none of these women should have ever become pregnant. Certainly not the middle school child…but neither one of the nieces give a darn about their children, neglect them, ignore them for the boyfriend of the week or the bottle of the day.

While the “ladies” go out to party their children are left with anyone they can find or left alone to fend for themselves. Do I judge the mothers? Hell yes, I judge them. You would too.

Everyone has their own version of morality. Mine says one does not bring children into this world if one has no intention of doing everything within their power to love and protect them… to nurture them. If a person is incapable or unwilling to do so, then they should not have children.

4 thoughts on “Judgment calls

  1. absolutely agreed! I don’t care about marriage arrangements or even about same gender couples raising kids. I do care about a home that instills respect and fills the child with a sense of love, belonging, and self-worth. Good post, Suze

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  2. I think I came across the video/article of the young child who wants to have a baby so that she would feel loved and I wondered what kind of family upbringing the young girl is receiving? I too wonder what on earth is going on with the rise in having children willy-nilly without commitment. I am still old-school in my way of thinking with regards to this and I think that this is creating a lot of dysfunction in the society. In my honest opinion, I don’t think having babies in such manner is best in the child’s interest. Of course there are situations that can’t be helped and issues of single parenting due to death or divorce, these are exceptions. I think that societies morals is growing lax with each day that passes by.

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  3. You have thoughts here and they are respectable!

    One has to be bound to that care and they are the minimal mandatory things!

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