If at first you don’t succeed, destroy all evidence that you even tried!
That could have been my motto for years when I was younger.
I was the kid that my parents thought would “never make anything of myself”…the one that “was sensible, too bad about her looks”…the one that would forever and always would be a “liar” because I told a lie at age six.
There was no pleasing my family, so every time I tried (and failed) to impress, I hid the effort.
It seemed like the intelligent thing to do at the time.
It took years, but eventually I did learn that it really doesn’t matter what any of my family think about me. It matters what I think about me.
Life has been so much nicer since I came to that conclusion.
Keep your mouth shut. It is harder to find a foot in it that way.
I used to say things and regret them almost immediately. I’d be rude and spiteful when someone inadvertently hurt my feelings.
I was known for my sarcasm and snark…and I was also known as a “Bitch”. I had few friends…I also had far fewer people hurting me emotionally.
Now, I speak what I think…I just try to be a little more diplomatic about the endeavor. I realized that I am the only one in charge of my emotions…no one can “make me’ feel a certain way.
I leave out comments about the speaker, and just speak to the statements.
I discovered people will actually LISTEN when one speaks that way. I can still be sarcastic in an ironic way, but try not to be personal about it when I do.
People LISTEN more when you aren’t attacking them, but an idea instead.
I win far more arguments this way.