For those that don’t know, my sweet hubby, George, is a hospice nurse. Yep, he is one of those incredible, loving, compassionate people who care for the dying.
Good for me as I have multiple medical issues that will ultimately get me and I have zero desire to hit up a hospital or go through all kinds of treatments for something that is end game at best.
I think as we age it is vitally important to discuss end of life issues with one’s family or significant other. Especially to do so while one is in fairly good health.
So many couples we have known have not discussed what they want or what they expect and when their spouse dies are left feeling helpless and hopeless…constantly second guessing what their loved one would have wanted.
I’m not sure where this seemingly western attitude of fearing death came from………I have had discussions with people from the Orient, the Middle East, Central America……….none of them seem to share my own family’s inability to talk openly about death. I tried talking with siblings and ended up having to stop because:
- they got upset
- they got mad
- they thought I was already dying and didn’t know how to tell them
- they refused to engage in discussion
What is the big deal people? For those of “faith” I would think it would be an easy discussion. It’s easier to get an atheist to discuss death than for me to get my ‘Christian” brother to do so………
What is so danged hard? We are all of us going to die at some point…discussing specifics about what you want and don’t want will not bring it about any faster.
Do yourself a favor. If you know basically what you want, tell a family member. Tell a friend. Better still, write it down so no one argues about your wishes later. You never know if a bus is going to go amok and run over you.